How To Get Through A Breakup💔?

Isn't life full of surprises and mysteries? I remember always envying my friends or just people in relationship. I remember saying things like "I just want to experience it even if I get heartbroken". Fair enough, life granted that wish to me. I just suddenly developed a liking for a co-worker/friend and after a month of constantly hanging out (with other friends together and alone), we decided to make it official. Unfortunately, that was when the MCO started. It was all flowers and glitters in the beginning but things just started to go downhill. Long story short, after 2 months, he broke up with me.

Well, like it or not, I had to get through it. There is no one right way or formula to follow to make yourself feel better. I am also not a doctor or professional to tell you how to get through the heartbreak. All I can share with you is how I got through mine. I am still in the midst of it but I can fairly say I'm progressing well. Again, this may not apply to everyone, in fact, it may not be applicable to anyone...I wouldn't know.

I guess everyone has their own ways of coping and if you ever need to, the only way to find out if it works for you or not, is to try it out.

• Cry and unleash your emotions if possible 😭.

If you have tears rolling down, don't stop it. Let it flow. Let it out. Just cry. You might end up with swollen eyes tomorrow but it is the easiest way to calm your heart as much as possible rather than bottling your tears up.

• Keep yourself busy ⌛

This was the mainly aimed to keep my mind off him. Fortunately enough, I landed on a part time job that managed to keep me busy the whole day. For the first few days, I was constantly thinking of him, the relationship and me even with the workload. As time pass, I find myself slowly thinking less about anything that relates back to him. It would be a lie if I say that I don't think about him now. I do. In fact, there are days where my mind would start acting up. When I catch myself doing that, I quickly brush it aside and do something that is way more productive lmao.

• Block/Mute/Archive ❌

Before he completely blocked me off everywhere (which was a few days after), I muted and archived him on all my social media and contacts. This allowed me, to again, be reminded less of him. Basically, the key here is to try to keep a distance so you can calm down as much as you can to prevent overthinking (for people like me who LOVES to overthink) or irrational thoughts.

• Delete his pictures 🔙

I...am still in the midst of this but I have deleted most of it. But even when I have deleted them, the pictures are still fresh in my mind. It is really a progress and when I reach a day where I can completely erase him OR be at peace with all the memories, that is when I think I can open myself again...or not hahahaha 😅

• Talk to your friends/family/trusted ones 💬

It is quite hard to only see from your own perspective and have your judgement based off it. If you have someone you trust to talk about this matter, be it your friend, family or anyone, talk to them about it. You may not want to hear the things they would say to you but you should definitely hear sooner or later. You can tell them you just want them to listen to you today. But promise yourself to hear their thoughts and opinions one day when you are feeling better and ready. A third person's perspective is different because they are at a neutral standpoint where they can see facts and what is really happening. Whether you want to accept their opinions or thoughts, the point here is to hear it. Have it go through your mind and take it with an open heart.

This are only purely my thoughts and personal opinion. Feel free to correct me if there is any mistake because I am still learning and this is only my first relationship. Unfortunately it didn't end well for reasons I can't share. Do share below if you have better advises or ways to get through a breakup!

See you soon!

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